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If I’m reading this correctly, the reported cases occured in May of 2024? So, 8-9 months ago? I understand testing, etc., does take some time, but it feels unreasonably long for this information to become public. Are my expectations out of line?
Yeah, I used to want to text a lot before meeting face to face, but have learned that almost always means I start to “fill in the blanks” and the person I meet never matches up with my expectations. By meeting face to face quickly, I don’t have a chance to build those expectations and am unlikely to feel “catfished” by anything other than blantant lies on their profile.
I think the bigger problem is that the apps really amplify the sense of “there’s always more fish in the sea.” So if that first date wasn’t full of sparks, people often prefer to see what other options are out there, rather than going on second dates to see if anything develops.
With the online approach, I know I’m very guilty of focusing on the other person’s “flaws”, and deciding they’re deal breakers. With people I meet via offline methods, we generally get to know each other a bit more organically and end up having multiple unofficial “dates” before the first official date.
My last actual date was over a year ago, with someone I met offline through mutual friends. There was definitely an initial spark, but it fizzled almost as quickly (mostly my own discomfort with emotional intimacy). We’re actually still friends though, and hang out with each other more often than I hang out with the friend who introduced us. If we had met via dating apps, I highly doubt we would still be friends because we just wouldn’t have any reason to cross paths organically.
JFC, what’s wrong with me? My first thought when reading that was, “Ooh! Maybe then I’ll finally be able to find a job again!”
Well shit. I just wrote up a long ass comment about why it probably sucks, but then decided I might as well try it out first. I created an account, but it won’t let me log in. I enter my email and password, then it makes me do a captcha, then it just says, “An error occured. Please try again.” I’ve tried multiple times and I guess I give up now.
I never really had trouble getting dates on Tinder, etc., but very few of those led to second dates. Of the people I’ve dated that I met without the help of apps, I probably would’ve “swiped left” on most of them. As another user said, general human interaction is my current route, focusing my energy on social interactions where I can meet people the old fashioned way: mostly friends of friends. That can range from get togethers at someone’s house, happy hours, general meetup groups, volunteering, hobbies and/or classes.
Isn’t Venmo owned by PayPal?
Edit: Oh shit, duh. Totally forgot what thread I was commenting on.
I never actually used Twitter, but recently made accounts on Mastodon, Bluesky, and Pixelfed.
Pixelfed has been my favorite of the three so far… I’m finding that the image-based focus means my feed is mostly fun stuff, that leaves me feeling happy, not gloom and doom of news, snark, etc.
I’m not sure how long I’ll use Mastodon, but I’ve been finding hashtags and users that I’m interested in following and interacting with, and the keyword filters have allowed me to limit (but not eliminate) the depressing stuff.
Bluesky pissed me the fuck off since I couldn’t find a way to follow hashtags, only users, and the Lists thing was just not what I wanted either. Bluesky’s filter is disappointing compares to Mastodon’s too, since Mastodon allows you to hide filtered words behind a content warning or hide them completely, while Bluesky seems to only hide them completely.
About 10 years ago, I signed up for a seedbox for torrenting purposes. USD 15/month, which was roughly the same as Netflix at the time. Since then, Netflix has repeatedly raised prices, dropped content, and added ads. On the other hand, I’m still paying $15/month for that seedbox, and they’ve upgraded my storage capacity and bandwidth allotment multiple times.
Stephen Colbert did a whole series of bits back on The Colbert Report where he formed a PAC, then a Super PAC, and pointed out numerous loopholes in the whole system. So basically, yep.
Hard disagree. If you ask people to make a temporary change that still feels achievable, they’re more likely to at least give it a shot, and many of those people will spend some time considering alternatives. Once the week is up, some people may even choose to continue boycotting Amazon, or at least reduce their spending there.