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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • man is conditioned from a young age not to show feelings

    I feel like you skipped over this part way too quickly. Myself and other men have been hearing things like “it’s not manly to cry”, “whining isn’t going to do anything for you”, “being weak is girly”, and countless other things for my entire memorable life

    And it’s not just men telling me this. It’s men, women, adults, my classmates, teachers and mentors.

    It’s not a good thing. And it’s changing now, which is so good. But man hearing that from your earliest memories makes it really set in.


  • I am on my fifth therapist. The first one I was seeing I kinda stopped going and then he retired, then I had a GF cheat on me and that was super brutal so I started going again.

    First therapist was the stereotypical “feelings are okay!” kind of therapist, second one she just automatically assumed it was my fault and was basically telling me that cause I’m a man I should have done better, and the third just immediately jumped to medication like halfway through my first session.

    Ended up with my current therapist and she’s great. I really like her because she regularly tells me that I’m just straight up being stupid or ridiculous and just need to handle my shit. Which works amazing for me.


  • My two biggest issues have been HDR and simulation hardware.

    It’s been a good few years since I’ve tried it but every time I’ve tried HDR my saturation just gets cranked to 11 and it looks like those nature photos that are edited to hell and back. Not sure why, and I’ve heard other people got it working so idk. I think it’s just the Nvidia drivers doing their thing and not working.

    But controllers for flight and racing Sims are the biggest headache to get working. And then when you do get them working you’ll have issues with games running well and detecting them (I think this is actually due to proton/lutris), issues with force feedback, issues with the various buttons and sliders that aren’t the primary axis. And then, after you spend hours getting them to work, it’ll just break again the next time you want to play. My sims and FPS games are the only reasons I still have a windows install.









  • Now, here’s something I’ve been pondering about this line of thought.

    I believe that everyone should be paid a fair wage for a fair days work. Which means that I really don’t like the fact that immigrant laborers get paid pennies compared to what an American laborers would.

    But obviously raising pay for immigrants would be effectively the same thing (from a business accounting perspective) as just paying the Americans higher wages, which by your own comment would raise prices.

    So I’m curious to see where you stand on this. Because to me there are a few end results and none of them are particularly amazing.

    1. Limit any jobs to American citizens or legal immigrants. This transition would be hugely detrimental to the current agriculture industry, and the higher salaries demanded by citizens would increase prices further.
    2. Raise immigrant prices to be in line with citizens. This would also raise prices.
    3. Continue with the status quo. The current status quo is horribly exploitive and needs to be changed.
    4. Lower citizen pay to be in line with immigrants. This would just never fly. You’d never be able to higher a citizen at the same rates they are paying immigrants
    5. Force companies to take a lower margin to absorb the higher pay. But this is just a dumb idea for lots of reasons and would never work in the “real world”™

    This is a genuine comment too. Like I said, I feel like the best route is to just increase pay for immigrants. But that has the same result on the end consumer.